Lately I have the impression that people are being forced to face their inner shadows whether they want to or not. I have several friends whose life circumstances are pushing them to have to look inside and figure out why they are the way they are.
They mostly resist, for it is those who hide more trauma, that wish not to face it. They tend to be people that have learned all sorts of coping mechanisms to hide their inner ghosts; they lie a lot, they make bad choices, they lie some more to justify their bad choices, they then feel bad about it and try to cover the pain with more bad choices and the vicious circle is perpetuated.
The underlying problem is, generally, that they grew up not liking themselves, feeling like they weren’t enough because perhaps they weren’t loved enough by those that should have been there for them. And the more bad choices they make, the more they disapprove of themselves, until they shy away from anyone that gets too close, scared that what they perceive as their inner ‘ugliness’ might show.
So they sabotage meaningful friendships and relationships in favour of meaningless, superficial interactions which don’t compromise them.
But now the time has come when they can no longer run away or hide from their inner chaos because their lives are falling apart, now they can see that they can’t go on like this; life is forcing them to deal with the pain, to understand it, to process it, to learn from it and to let it go.
The less they like themselves the harder it is to help them, for they are too afraid you might see them how they see themselves and the fake facade they’ve so carefully crafted all their lives will come crumbling down leaving them vulnerable and ‘naked’.
Be there for them without judgment, be the listening ear, the open heart and the shoulder to cry on. It’s a difficult time for a lot of people right now because it is time to get on the right path, but only those that have done the inner work will be able to access it. So help those that need support and encouragement right now. We need to ‘save’ as many people as possible.
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Notes to Readers:
I don’t know about the “saving” aspect of Laura’s message, but the gist is true. If someone asks for help, listen to them. Refrain from offering advice. Especially refrain from judgment.
I’m not perfect either, but have a housemate who fits the above description of such a lost soul as depicted in Laura’s article. She’s moving out this week. I scared her. She was running away from herself and ran away from everyone in the household, not just me. I understand the roots of her pain, but having dealt with my own family-related issues in my own way, I didn’t offer any sympathy. I don’t believe in feeling pity for those who suffer. In one way or another, they brought upon themselves the opportunity to learn from the experience. Those who refuse to… will only prolong or delay the suffering.
I’ve learned it is not necessary to please people and do what I want to when I want to… although within my current financial means. People adjust to me or they don’t. I’m not going to compromise myself for their comfort. I will listen, but they must be willing to do the inner work.
On behalf of my readers, if you send me a direct email I will answer questions if you are puzzled about topics that you read about on Sunny’s Journal. Still, I’m not a prophet, philosopher, alien abductee, or anything highly extraordinary. I am a person… an elder. I’ve lived on the fringe of society in this lifetime rather than being a leader… been there, done that… and suffered greatly as a result, losing my life more than once. With my limited experience in this lifetime… I can still offer up my wisdom on occasion. What you do with it is your business and responsibility. And if I don’t know the answer I will tell you so. Proceed at your own risk.
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Eliza Ayres
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Note: The artwork above is AI-generated. That’s its conception of a middle-aged female. I would put her as being much older, but went with it anyway. The intention was for the subject to appear tired, confused, and sad.
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